Gentle Reminders

Overwhelmed by my grief,
A friend reaches out in understanding,
Reminds me though we do not get over grief,
We can learn to live a new life, a life with our grief
We can rebuild our lives to include happiness and love,
And we will, if nothing else than for the ones we have lost,
Because we know that’s what they would want for us.
And know that one day in our future,
We will again be rejoined,

easy…

The Beauty of Peace

I’m looking down, on the green and blue,
With clouds above, between me and you.

The beauty of this place called earth,
It’s plain to see it now deserves,
An end to all this war and dread,
Redirected to pure love instead,
Angels work by our sides,
To put an end to earth’s decline.

Stand up for oneness,
As we’re all the same,
Beams of light from where we came,
The source of life that’s all around,
Energetic realms dimensions found,
Shifting between the beams of light,
It’s time for all on earth, to fly.

The balance of all life on earth,
Will be returned, as it’s now deserved,
To the peaceful surroundings in which we live,
Harmonious melodies of love will sing,
Between you and me, and every living thing.

A flotilla of angels, will line the streets,
With cries of peace, as their lights released,
Time on earth for angels work, to come to an end,
When earth is served, with eternal loving peace,
In the hearts of all living free.

No longer exists, any pain,
Just love vibrations, for all to gain,
The time is now to stand together,
There is no storm we cannot weather,
Join the light and shine it bright,
Over the beauty, of the green and blue,
That will soon exist, with love that blooms.

Written by Jason Petch 30/11/14

Earth

Heart Broken

I reach out my hands desperate to touch love,
Finding only emptiness where you should be,
In a panic I jump up to search where you are,
Ever so slowly my memory begins to clear,

With remembrance returns my tormented soul,
Realization that you are truly gone, lost to me,
Death had scythed his cruel hands into my life,
I now live in a nightmare, tears ever unending,

Over and over I ask myself how can I go on,
So much angriness that you have been seized,
I’ve lost my faith, no room for an uncaring God,
I know I need you back, I need you holding me,

And thusly this has been my life too long a time,
Tell me what to do to put meaning to my sadness,
I beg give me a sign to help me one more instance,
Demonstrate erstwhile that our love still thrives,

A small voice asks me if we may talk for a while,
They offer a cognition creating a depth of thought,
A realization of simple truths concealed by my grief,
Clarity that presents a reason to find purpose, hope,

They remind me that you are not really lost to me,
Unseen you are still right here, still embracing me,
Your love is not gone but grown with wonder, joy,
Each of my days are now with your arms enfolding,

Your greatest want is to see me blissful, glad ere more,
To firmly grasp my life again, to treasure each second,
For the gifts you brought me, I owe you this and more,
The wonders with which you fill me, make me alive,

And they share with me even more truthful a vision,
For this is not an end, for at some little time reunion,
And reunited our love shall light the all of existence,
A newest star lighting the heavens, lasts for all time,

And another reminder, for sadly perhaps, we do not ‘get over’ our grief at losing loved ones. But we do learn to live a new life, with our grief. We can and should be happy, going on forward once more while being honest and true to our caring and loving natures. Not a betrayal but more in honoring those having gone on before us, Can we do any less for the love they share with us?

Namaste and blessings,

easy… 11/25/2014

Wreckage

DeathComesQuietly

I can only be described now as wreckage,
Find no answers no matter how I search,
All this damage, my dreams are dead,
Yet still fighting to escape this mess,
Listen close, can you hear my shrieks,
I would hate for you to feel my pain,
Trying to hide it, silence the screams,
My tears like flooding rain, but hidden,

Deep on the inside, I stay in misery,
I’m dying they say, I fear it be true,
On the outside, false front, strong,
Inside, I beg to be helped, weak,
Life after the wreck, is a wreck,
Heartbeat slowing, life ebbing,
I gasp for breath, desperate to hold,
But why hold, cannot this be my last breath,

Alone,the tears steam down my face,
Falling down, can’t get up, lost,
My heart torn out, my mind gone,
I have only the flames, the smoke,
Thoughts of past, Dancing past,
All I have left, of a journey so fine,
And even now at an end, I still hold love,
Still want to give, to share, to aid,

I’ve loved like you can never know,
Shared moments of pure magic with so many,
I watched the downtrodden rise and flourish,
Saw lives change and brighten, grow,
Afraid I had lost, the best of me,
May even have thought it dead,
But it didn’t die, it still lives in this mess,

Who is she, old woman reaching for help,
Doesn’t matter, I must do what I can,
This is who I am, have always been,
In the midst of crisis, I must act,
Yearn to see a dove fly once more,
That is my meaning, my need, my truth,
Is it all in my head, a real mess in there,
If I tried for myself, I can’t, lost in the past,

Could I find hope for tomorrow,
Sorry to answer no, yet I still love a dove,
I’m still here, no leverage, waiting,
Awaiting ere the end to finally come,
I’m dying you see, a wreckage is all now,
But I been all I needed, fulfilling and true,
For I’ve lived with a passion, a life based on love,
A satisfaction fills my soul, though I feel incomplete,

Time nears for a rest, I deserve at least that,
And I embrace the idea, to go home at last…

easy…

Dancing on the the edge, in Bliss

Born at the bottom, of society’s dregs
Yet compassion and caring, my very meaning
Compassionate always, no matter reason
My journey to embrace, spread loving embrace
For everything, everyone, all life is equal

I’ve danced on the edge, looked over the abyss
Held throughout storms, typhoons, winters so dire
My calling is giving, just show me the need
Driven to meet it, no matter the who
Deep scared, from the ones who abuse I admit

Yet if I find need tomorrow, still I’ll reach out
We all need the helping, in time as we journey
This be a hard-hearted world, we must stand together
Can not be let fall, lest they don’t get up
I must reach out a hand, in friendship and care

As I pass by, knowing, others now learn,
They grow in the knowing, in each a new joy
To some I appear haggard, tired out to the core
Worn down, a bit tattered, scars running so deep
Yet my light shining bright, shining and forever

Come join me now, we’re stronger together

Easy…

 

Take Hold

Precious moments, gone, lost to the bane of indifference

So much opportunity, so much of a life’s wonder now gone to waste

Such a travesty of spirit, missed out on blessings

And we sit, watching them all go by

Over and over, unheeding of the luring offer

Take hold I tell you young one

Waste not your short time given

Let not you find yourself old in regret

In regret with short time left

Take Hold

Steve Easy Whitacre

 

A Need

  Can you walk by when seeing the need in his eyes
  Is your heart hard enough not to care or feel
  Without reaching out a hand to offer aid and companionship
  I say you cannot

  Make but a difference in the world around you
  Help lift those in need to greater heights and comfort
  Place yourself in the world of the one in loneliness
  Allow yourself to feel the wanton loss of those around you

  Make this world a far better place for all within it
  Create the difference so much-needed for change
  Let tomorrow be a light anew and bright as sun
  The changes needed fall but to you

  Begin today…A-Need

Reach Out and Help

ReachOut

In this day as all others there are those in dire need. By joining together we can meet this need and aid all, beginning to build a better existence for all mankind. We start with forgiveness, embracing rather than judging, focusing on love and giving rather than holding to the continuing conflicts that have so long ruled our existence. Embrace peace, reach for the light, and create a better tomorrow, together s one.

Users and Abusers

Exploitive hypocrite that skilfully twists words, dodges and evades coupled with character assassination. Exploitive hypocrite that skilfully twists words, dodges and evades coupled with character assassination.

How to defend yourself?

How do people allow themselves to be used? It is easy to see it in another person’s life but not so with ourselves. When we see an emotionally abused person we think to ourselves that, “I would never let that happen to me because I am a strong individual” or we say that the person must have a very low self-esteem.

The problem is, at the beginning of a new relationship, the manipulation is subliminal. If they are good at it then it won’t be noticed until long after a pattern in ingrained in the relationship.

The three main profiles of an exploiter

The Love Bomber
The Helpless One
The Equivocator

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How to defend yourself?

How do people allow themselves to be used? It is easy to see it in another person’s life but not so with ourselves. When we see an emotionally abused person we think to ourselves that, “I would never let that happen to me because I am a strong individual” or we say that the person must have a very low self-esteem.

The problem is, at the beginning of a new relationship, the manipulation is subliminal. If they are good at it then it won’t be noticed until long after a pattern in ingrained in the relationship.

The three profiles of an exploiter

The Love Bomber
The Helpless One
The Equivocator

Defending oneself against being taken advantage of the three tactics used in tandem might seem too hard to do but establishing a protective fence for self-preservation is easier than becoming depressed and disabled from such emotional abuse.

The exploiter will adroitly transform themselves like a shape-shifter when ever a victim becomes aware of being manipulated. These changes can happen so quickly it is as if trying to hold on to a wiggling slippery eel when you are close to becoming aware of their false nature.

Exploitive hypocrite that skilfully twists words, dodges and evades coupled with character assassination. Pin It Exploitive hypocrite that skilfully twists words, dodges and evades coupled with character assassination.

The three profiles of an exploiter

The Love Bomber
The Helpless One
The Equivocator

Defending oneself against being taken advantage of the three tactics used in tandem might seem too hard to do but establishing a protective fence for self-preservation is easier than becoming depressed and disabled from such emotional abuse.

The exploiter will adroitly transform themselves like a shape-shifter when ever a victim becomes aware of being manipulated. These changes can happen so quickly it is as if trying to hold on to a wiggling slippery eel when you are close to becoming aware of their false nature.

THE LOVE BOMBER

The Love Bomber is the love fraud. Like a broken record from a cheesy Spanish love song, there is no depth in conversation other than, “I love you, I want you, I need you.” An endless refrain of platitudes and the feeling of being put on a pedestal from this sweet talker is a set-up for the eventual hard fall. When you are all used up, with no money, no housing and no support system to get yourself back up, that person will then totally and completely abandon you with no more remorse than if discarding a used toilet paper.

Buttering you up doesn’t have to be romantic. By mirroring your own hopes and desires, the exploiter will agree with everything you say. When pressed and asked what do they think of a situation, the exploiter retreats into a feigned humbleness that is the deflection not to have the true self revealed. You will be told that you are, smart,talented, successful, humorous, courageous, imaginative, inquisitive,confident and just altogether different than anybody they have ever met before.

Playing the servant, pretending to be working hard only for you without any thought of themselves, appearing humbly submissive and the martyr, these are the slick and surreptitious ways to deflect any criticism against themselves. A passive aggressive person will say yes to your face, but have no intention of keeping a promise. If called on the the carpet for repeated failure to follow through on promises, they play dumb, act hurt and vilify you for being so harsh and ruthless.

The User will then shame you for questioning the high moral standards that they claim to posses, then divert the topic in question by throwing in a Red Herring into the mix, pushing your buttons to forget the original problem. If you are finally able to nail jelly up against the tree, then minimization of their own bad behaviour will occur.

This is when the double standard begins to appear. They allow themselves mistakes and being human, but if you are questioning the person or express any displeasure at their supposed self sacrifice they have suffered “only for you” – then you will be vilified and raked over the coals repeatedly, often months afterwards the original ‘sin’ that you ‘committed’.

How can a manipulator be able to twist you around their little finger so adeptly? It’s because they know you better than you know yourself.Lack of self-knowledge is a weakness. Exploiters love co-dependents.There is nothing wrong with being co-dependent if the other is just as co-dependent as yourself. But a Exploiter will seek out like a heat missile, people who want to feel good about themselves by helping other unfortunates. So now we come up to to the next profile, ‘The Victim’.

THE VICTIM

This is the person who makes other people feel sorry for them, and involves anybody near with their own problems. The drama queen whose life’s situation is not any fault of their own but from some outside source. Hopelessly irresponsible, they don’t want a hand up but a handout. Even a drowning person will reach a hand up for somebody to pull them out, but not these people. As if in a quagmire of quicksand, they quickly pull in whatever help is extended to them down into their own demise. If you call them out about how how the person is not making any effort to help themselves they use emotional blackmail to camouflage the zero respect that they have for your own personal space. They don’t respect your ‘no’ for an answer.

It has has a phrase for this, it’s called “hitting bottom’, retreating help and enabling forces the person to take stock of themselves through tough love. It is most difficult for family members to contend with the myriad of game playing from an recovering addict. It hurts because a person wants to help a distressed person but if do, only prolong the agony of recovery. Users enjoy codependents’ need to feel needed and exploit this desire through shaming, passive hostility and subtle intimidation. These people feel that their toxic coping mechanisms individuals are justified for survival.

Shrewd, skilful and deliberate, once a con’s ploy is exposed, the victim will feel distaste within themselves to be allowed to be so duped and won’t report it. Feeling self doubt in their own awareness of people’s intentions, the aftermath of such a cruel betrayal leaves a person less self assured in their own judgement of reality .Taking advantage of gullible people is an art form. For an example then listen to Dante’s Inferno description of the innermost circle of Hell in this excerpt.

THE LIAR

This is the hardest part to deal with because with every lie there is a grain of truth, and with every true statement there is a lie. Remember the adage, “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” Overtime they will be caught in their own web of lies. Listen to you own inner voice, don’t be their puppet. Think logically, as Judge Judy says, “If it don’t make sense then it’s a lie.”

Manipulative tactics in a nutshell

Denial
Selective Inattention
Rationalization
Diversion
Lying, equivocation
veiled Threats
Playing the innocent victim
Vilifying the codependent
Seduction
Minimization

Ways to eliminate manipulation in your relationships

List a inventory of the manipulative behaviour.
Stay alert
Stop responding to ‘crazy-making’, ignore them
Don’t tolerate overstepping of boundaries

Do, ask yourself, are You in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

Life and Friends

Everyone will go through some very hard times at some point. Life just isn’t easy. For something to think about, did you ever think as how the people who are the strongest are usually the most sensitive? Did you notice the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get used and mistreated? Do you know the ones who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most? Do you know the three hardest things to say are I love you, I’m sorry, and Help me.

Sometimes a person may look happy, but you have to look past their smile and see how much pain they may be in. To all my friends who are going through some issues right now, Let’s start an intention avalanche. We all need positive intentions right now. If I don’t see your name, I’ll understand. May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy and paste this status for one hour to gift a moment of support to all those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just need to know we all truly care. Do it for all of us, just do it, for nobody is immune. I hope to see this everywhere on the web, if nothing else just for moral support for those in need.